How to Overcome Discontentment in Your Relationship
Sometimes we all struggle with discontentment in our lives. We may think if we just had more money, a bigger house, nicer car, or better body, THEN we’d be happier and content. But, what happens when you begin to feel discontentment with the one you love? Here are some ways to help you overcome discontentment in your relationship:
1. Guard your Senses. It’s important to guard against what you look at, listen to, think about, or even touch. Maybe it’s the flirty coworker who regularly compliments you with a twinkle in their eye, or the hug that lasts a little too long. Maybe it’s the TV program, book or magazine that quietly whispers the fun you could be having elsewhere. Whatever the source, guard your senses and be alert to things that can breed discontentment in your own relationship.
2. Resist the ‘Grass is Greener …....’ Syndrome. The grass may LOOK lush and greener on the other side, but it’s only a façade. Maybe someone else looks more attractive and appears to be more attentive, BUT will they go the distance with you? Would they have your back if you didn’t have two pennies to rub together or if your once fit body goes through some changes? It’s important to not get caught up in the hype and lured into thinking it could be better with someone else.
3. Inject F-U-N into your Relationship. If your relationship has become a little ho-hum, drab and routine, it’s time to add fun and excitement to the mix! Try planning something new and out of the ordinary. If you can, inject regular doses of fun and spontaneity into your relationship. Give each other something to look forward to and remind one anther why you fell in love in the first place.
4. Choose Gratitude. We need to remember to count our blessings and thank God for the beautiful things right in front of us. And although our mates are not perfect human beings, (and neither are we!), they are perfect for us. God knew when he gave you that person, just what you needed and how they’d compliment your life. He knew this person would stretch, test and challenge areas in your life that would make you a better version of yourself; embrace the gift!
5. Pray for “Fresh” Eyes. If you are battling with discontentment, pray and ask God to give you “fresh” eyes for the person you’re in relationship with. God can touch your heart and theirs, allowing you to see each other in a new, fresh light and move you from mere contentment, to mind-blowing satisfaction!
So what do YOU do to overcome feelings of discontentment in your relationship?